How to Fix a Marriage?

I am a divorce attorney.

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I may can help save your marriage.  I know it sounds inconsistent, but my job is to know the law regarding divorce in my state, advise you with regards to your best interests, protect your interests as I am able and to comply with your requests as much as possible within the realms of legal, moral and ethical authority.

Fixing a Marriage does not come in a manual.  There are no quick fixes, nor a consistent 3-step process, but there are some things in common that relationships that can be salvaged exhibit.

1) Both parties Desire or are open to Reconciliation.  If one party ain’t having it, it ain’t happening.

2) Both parties Try.  One party giving all the effort and the other being the limp-fish won’t get you back together.

3) Both parties accept the Risk.  Falling in love, falling on your face, falling out of love.  Risk is inherent in all relationships.

4) It takes time.  This is not a fast process.  The “end” was usually a long time coming, a build up of disappointment, or lies, misconduct or growing apart.  It took time to fail. It takes time to heal.

Saving a marriage is possible, but hard.  It takes the “want to,” the “effort,” the “risk” and “time.”  You still may fail, but you then know you did everything you could.

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One Question You Need to Ask Your Attorney!

Attorneys are asked many a number of hypothetical or convoluted questions.

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We are asked basic questions regarding the law, Complex questions regarding strategy and even common sense questions regarding life choices. Of course, attorneys are asked about fees.

But what question is not asked that should be?

“Are you doing things that hurt my case?”

Attorneys are not supposed to, but unnecessarily filing Contempt, having the other party served, igniting or not responding to the other when they should can make things worse. Attorneys are in a position where they can help or they can do damage beyond repair.

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The TRUTH on LIE Detectors; Polygraph and the Courts

“I’ll take a lie detector test!”  Famous last words…

Lie Detector Tests and their application in Mississippi Law is limited.  The tests themselves are deemed generally unreliable by a legal standard and are no admissible in Court absent mutual agreement or stipulation otherwise. However, law enforcement relies on them when administered properly.  Personally, I have seen testing and the results impact several cases.

First off, What is a Polygraph Test?  A test which measures and records physiological indicators such as; blood pressure, pulse,respiration, and skin conductivity, while the subject is asked and answers a series of questions. Wikipedia.

During the actual test only the test taker and examiner are present.  The questions asked are typically only a few and they are asked a number of times, the exact same way.  There are no surprise questions, no questions that are not rehearsed and no Lamp Shades.

The test is measuring your involuntary responses and during the pre-test phase you are instructed to lie about an answer for comparison to involuntary responses during the testing.

Despite their limited Courtroom application, law enforcement agencies routinely administer Polygraph tests to suspects of crimes and the FBI uses polygraph testing regularly for not only suspects and witnesses, but also testing their own personnel, staff and agents.

I have used Polygraph testing in several cases where issues involved abuse allegations.  In one instance in particular a properly administered and passed Polygraph test  helped result in having a matter dismissed in Court and helped end a criminal investigation and rightly so!

As for the tricks on Ocean’s Eleven on to how to beat the test…well, the FBI tests for counter measures.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law litigation attorney in Mississippi and encourages you to not to lie!

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You may also contact Matthew with your family law case, question or concern at (601) 850-8000 or Matthew@bowtielawyer.ms.

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Who’s #1?

There has been a lot of debate over who is #1…

There are polls, blogs, fan sites, trolls, media and other hype, but #1 in a Family Law situation has to be the children.

If you ever find yourself not knowing what to do, do what is best for the children.  Should you let Jr. go on a trip with dad when it’s not his time?

What is best for Jr.?  

Is dad safe?  

Is the trip meaningful?

 Is it best for Jr.?  If you can answer these questions then you know what to do.

So, I have to give in every time? No, but you should be reasonable and if it means you don’t get to “act” like the other parent does, maybe that is a very good thing for Jr. to see!

In a Family Law situation make your children your #1 priority!

Matthew Thompson is a Child Custody lawyer in Mississippi and if you like what I did here, read more at BowTieLawyer.ms

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You may also contact Matthew with your family law case, question or concern at (601) 850-8000 or Matthew@bowtielawyer.ms.

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Bad “Divorce” Tattoos?

What says “My Marriage is Forever” better than a tattoo?  Well, maybe saying it.

Below are some potentially “bad” tattoo ideas…

Think this guy likes Brenda? Does Brenda like him?

Hmm…things aren’t exactly lining up.

That heart looks easy to break.

Matthew Thompson is a Family Law Attorney in Mississippi and warns you that tattoos may be longer than your marriage, act accordingly.

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You may also contact Matthew with your family law case, question or concern at (601) 850-8000 or Matthew@bowtielawyer.ms.

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