Don’t Want Things to Get Worse? Don’t do Something to Make Things Worse

Want things to get worse? Do something worse!

In family law it is often desired by a party to do something to get back at the other spouse.  The awful soon-to-be-ex did something first that was mean, so they want retribution and to do something meaner.  Usually this is a very bad idea. Two wrongs don’t make a right and it may well get you into trouble.

John and Jenifer were married. John had an affair with Jane. Jane was married to Jim.  So, guess what Jenifer did? She had an affair with Jim!  It did not make things better…

There’s a reported case where the soon-to-be-ex-husband threw all of the wife’s clothes in the driveway, squirted them with lighter fluid and lit them afire.  This conduct did not make things better.

Unless you want to end up in the War of Roses, stop doing things to make things worse.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Attorney in Mississippi and advises all of his clients to abstain from doing things to make things worse.

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Lying Eyes & Other Signs of Lies and the People That Tell Them.

If you’ve ever been involved in a family law case then you’ve dealt with someone lying.

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Clients, witnesses and even lawyers sometimes lie.  It could be a little white lie or a huge whopper. A former CIA officer said to watch out for these cues that you might be being lied to;

  • The Eyes Tell the Tale.  When asked a question the witness looks up, closes their eyes or looks down, especially on a question they should know.
  • Shielding the Face.  When speaking the person have their hand in front of their eyes or mouth.
  • Verbal Answer/Body Language Disagree.  The best example of this was when the deponent was asked if she was having an affair.  She said, “No,” but shook her head Yes.  When confronted with this she spilled the beans.
  • The Delayed Response.  Some things you should not have to think about.
  • Fidgeting.  Messing with your hair, your cup, or your pen when answering.
  • Nose Grows.  Think Pinocchio.  Very rare*

Want to know more about lies and the people that tell them?  Try these;

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Attorney in Mississippi and advises you to NEVER lie while under oath.

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The First Phone Call to the Attorney; What to Know?

The first step is always the hardest!

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When you call a Family Law Attorney for the first time there are some basics that are pretty universal.  Be ready with this information.

  • Your full name and that of your spouse/defendant
  • Whether anything is on file in any Court
  • Critical deadlines, trial dates, hearing dates, etc…
  • Who the attorneys are, if any
  • Who the Judge is
  • What Court you are in, if so
  • What County is home for you
  • Date/Place of Marriage
  • Date/Place of Separation
  • Ages of children
  • Job description and approx. income
  • Whether it will be contested or Agreed

These are the basics that any family law practitioner is going to need to do a conflicts check and to do a proper evaluation of your case.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Attorney in Mississippi and encourages potential clients to educate themselves and know their stuff!

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The 3 Best Kept Surprise Secrets for a Happy Marriage…(you will not believe #3!)

Happy Marriages are not only in fairy tales.  They take work, but do exist in the real world.

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So, what are 3 of the best kept secrets for a happy marriage?

  1. Work out.  Exercise is good for your physical and mental health.  Exercise results in your body releasing enodrphins which make you feel good. Also, one partner working out and being healthy may well help encourage the other party the inspiration they need to do the same.  You do not have to go crazy, just go.
  2. Cook a Meal for the Other.  Cook they’re favorite meal.  Even if you cannot cook, try.  It’s the “trying” that gets you the credit. Alternatively cook together.
  3. Hire a Lawn Service. But, you just said to work out, but mowing the yard and weed-eating are awful.  More fights over when, who and whether the lawn gets cut Friday, Saturday and Sunday are had every week than fights about oil changes. Obviously expense may be a factor and a few poor souls may find their satisfaction from yard work, but if you are like most folks it is a thankless, hot, annoying chore that always needs to be done, seemingly.

Matthew Thompson is a Divorce Attorney in Mississippi and while these may or may not be the secrets that make your marriage magic, striving for things in common and focusing on the important parts of life are never a bad thing.

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War Stories; A “Bump” in the Road

Originally posted on BowTieLawyer.MS:

Client sabotages own case.  Story at eleven.

FACTS:  A mother lost custody, temporarily, due to being arrested for driving on a suspended license.  The father was given the child and while mom was in jail he filed a fault based divorce, sought custody and had her served.  Mom was finally released and began the process of regaining custody.  Mom filed an Answer and a claim for custody herself.

At a temporary hearing, which is a legal band-aid to address custody and finances, mom presented her case.  Upon being cross-examined there were numerous questions about alleged drug use.  Well, fortunately, mom had been thoroughly interviewed and prepared by her lawyer.  Her ONLY dirt was the suspended license.

Mom denied the drug allegations as laughable.  Some of mom’s financial records were introduced that showed her in some shady parts of town at unseemly hours.  This was shown through ATM transactions.  However…

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